Governor Anandiben Patel, during her speech at the 41st convocation of Chhatrapati Shahu Ji Maharaj University (CSJMU), suggested that women should prioritise becoming “expert mothers” before pursuing careers in civil service or education. This statement has drawn criticism from various quarters, highlighting issues around gender roles and expectations in society.

Her comments, directed towards students, parents, and faculty members, implied that women should excel in traditional domestic roles before aiming for professional achievements. Such remarks have reignited discussions about the societal pressures faced by women, particularly regarding their dual responsibilities at home and in the workplace.

This latest statement comes at a time when many women are making strides to balance career aspirations and home life. Critics argue that this perspective hinders progress towards gender equality and reinforces outdated notions of women’s roles.

Reactions from Women in Academia and Beyond

The phrase “expert mother” has been met with skepticism from many women, including Maitrayee Sen, a PhD scholar at Ashoka University. Sen emphasised that there is no objective measure for motherhood and that parenting is a continuous learning process without certification. She asserted that claiming mastery over parenting often leads to neglecting the evolving needs of children.

Others have voiced similar concerns. Simantini Ghosh, an Assistant Professor at Ashoka University and a single mother, highlighted that consistent presence and understanding are far more critical than striving for unattainable perfection. Saudamini Ali Khan, a communications specialist, described Patel’s remarks as potentially detrimental, suggesting they simplify the evolving nature of parenting, which indeed requires adaptation at every stage of a child’s growth.

Naintara Kakati-Das, a teacher and mother, expressed that the ideal of an expert mother feels disconnected from real-life experiences. She noted that each day presents new challenges in parenting, highlighting that learning and growth are inherent to the parenting journey.

Criticism From Younger Generations

A common refrain among the younger generation is the belief that equality cannot be achieved if such gender-focused advice continues to proliferate. They assert that both men and women should be supported in their ambitions without the added burden of tailored expectations.

Maitrayee Sen emphasised that placing such responsibility solely on women fundamentally misplaces the dialogue about parenting. Encouraging both parents to share responsibilities is vital in achieving a more balanced approach to family and career.

The Broader Implications of Gendered Expectations

Many women suggest that the issue extends beyond the notion of expert motherhood. They argue that existing expectations for women to manage household and emotional labour while pursuing a career complicates their professional journeys. Kakati-Das stated that skills like cooking should not be prerequisites for career advancement, contrasting them with the significant effort required to establish a professional identity.

The discussion sparked by Patel’s remarks raises essential questions about the societal standards applied to women compared to men. Whether it involves parenting or career aspirations, the expectation for women to meet elevated standards continues to be contested.

Ultimately, stakeholders agree that parenting should not be gendered and that both mothers and fathers should equally share the responsibility. A shift towards recognising parenting as a shared endeavour is crucial for fostering a more supportive environment for all parents, regardless of gender.

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